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Approaching strangers dating

The chubby, balding civil servant in his early 50s who contacted me would not normally be someone I’d meet up with, but he messaged me in such a witty and eloquent way that I agreed to meet him for tea.

Jerry was a wealthy, highly successful, intelligent, divorced chap who worked in the film industry.

He owned four homes around the world and, on paper at least, ticked every box going. He was scruffy with a scratchy-looking grey beard that made him look horribly unkempt.

Still, there were times when the idea of a permanent partner seemed appealing. Did I really want to know about that classic 1966 Mercedes SL he’d restored, or where his children went to school?

Knowing I wouldn’t get this with a much younger man, I decided to remain open to dates with men nearer my own age, who could sing along to the Rolling Stones. Ever since my book was published, I’d been inundated with correspondence from older men who wanted to prove they had just as much going for them as the young bucks had. He was no matinee idol but looked presentable enough. No, I wanted the thrill of seeing a beautiful young man over the other side of the dinner table, laughing at my anachronisms and making me giddy with excitement.

While statistics can, theoretically, be used to prove/disprove anything, smart people can usually see through the lies to focus on the numbers.

Christian Rudder, president of Ok Cupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site.

Is doesn’t matter if the man is 50, already had kids, and has virtually no chance of being with a 20 year old.

I once read that the reason blond women are perceived as most attractive by scores of men is that blonds have a slightly higher estrogen level than women with other hair colors.

At 65, my date (I’ll call him Jerry) was a few years older than me.

We’d been introduced by a mutual friend who thought we would be a good match.

To tell men NOT to feel this way would be akin to telling them not to breathe.